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Why I SEE things Differently.

Posted by apwood on April 27, 2008

The 8th Oprah & Eckhart class talked about INNER SPACE.

I especially found it helpful because Eckhart answered a lot of questions from people (including myself) who had a hard time with “being” one with now and what is, and “doing.” Just as I did, a lot of people were seeing this “peace” only when being still.

One guy asked how we make money and pay our bills and still be.

Eckhart explained that being is not just sitting there being with it, but having it behind all that you do.

He also spoke to the fact that is it more difficult to remain a conscious observer when faced with adversity, anger, or anything unsettling. But that if you can remain conscious that you are angry, you are not lost or taken over by anger.

That it is a practice, which takes time, and eventually you become more aware and don’t have to “catch” yourself because you are most always coming or operating from presence.

It really did help. Something that Oprah said to one caller was that if you look at things from your conscious without labeling that the world really does transform. I felt what she was saying as this has been my experience over the last 8 weeks during the classes.

As I’m sure a lot of Mother’s agree, household and necessary tasks can be boring, and repetitive. During these times – driving to the grocery store, dry cleaners, or wherever I’ve tried to use the tools Eckhart has spoken about – deep breaths, feeling my inner body, looking at things without labeling them etc.

Wow, what a difference it makes!

I’ve noticed things that I’ve looked at for years and never really “saw” them before.

Like dandelions. Instead of seeing them as a weed, they looked so yellow and beautiful and they reminded me of all the times my daughter picked them for me as a little girl. Even the ones she shoved in her pocket at school to give me later!

The tree across the street that is missing a side branch and always looked deformed to me before – now looks unique and strong and beautiful because it isn’t perfect.

Our dog Angel – who wanted to go out and walk or sit in the sun during the day when I was busy (which previously at times seemed like a chore)- now allows me to take 20 minutes to enjoy the beauty outside.

This may be second nature to some – but to me – it’s all new.

What a gift to view the beauty of the world new each day.

I am so grateful.

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Why Will You Thank Yourself for Watching Eckhart & Oprah’s 5th & 6th Online Class?

Posted by apwood on April 13, 2008

Because the emotional baggage that you have acquired – which weighs you down, reacts to anything negative said or done to you, and keeps seeking more pain – will begin to go away.

Eckhart calls this emotional baggage the “Pain-Body.” He describes it as an entity consisting of all the negativity that we’ve held onto. It eventually keeps collecting and feeding off of more and more pain becoming so large in some that the pain-body can be ‘active’ in you most of the time.

Which would describe me for a better part of my life.

Are you or have you been angry, resentful, felt that what you were dealt in life was so unfair? I have. Even the things that happened to you as a child. I mean we couldn’t help what was ‘done’ to us – and it is natural (at least it has been to me) to hold onto those things.

But in the short 2 weeks that I have been aware’ of my pain-body and tried not to be drawn in by it – my actions and reactions have changed dramatically. I don’t get angry multiple times a day!

From inconsiderate drivers, rude customer service reps, to my daughter talking back. When I don’t take what is being said or done as an affront to me (in other words, I don’t experience it through my pain-body) – it doesn’t hurt me and I don’t react. And wow – what energy it saves!

What resonated with me a lot was when Eckhart began speaking about the fact that the pain-body comes out or shows itself the most in intimate relationships. The Pain-Body also tries to feed itself (remember it has to be fed to continue its existence) from pushing the buttons of the one you love. So I suppose simulataneous feeding would be our fights….

This would be why there is that phenomenon that you don’t “really know someone” until you’ve lived with them, this is when you are introduced to their pain-body.

During Class 5 – Eckhart explained that the pain-body” is the emotional manifestation of the “ego.” And that just the thought that it (the painbody) is not who we are gives us the freedom to let it go.

I’m amazed at how simplistic this all seems, including the answers to stopping the cycle. Eckhart said, “awareness dissolve it.” So just as was talked about with the ego, just being aware is enough to separate yourself from it (the pain-body.)

He says in Chapter Six in A New Earth -pg. 161 – “It is your conscious prescence that breaks identification with the pain-body. When you no longer identify with it, the pain-body can no longer control your thinking and so cannot renew itself anymore by feeding on your thoughts. The pain-body does not dissolve immediately, but once you have severed the link between it and your thinking, the bain-body begins to lose energy.”

Eckhart explained that you should feel your pain when it comes up. Accept it.

This was not a natural thing and pretty difficult for me. Who likes to feel their pain? But strangely enough – he’s right. When I was feeling pain these past two weeks, I layed back and surrendered to it. It was almost like jumping off a cliff and trusting the first couple times.

But I have to say when i let go and sat in the pain without one ounce of resistance or hesitation -= it lessened! It is kind of like the pain goes to the background instead of being so close. I was suprised because I have always resisted it with such force. I don’t want to hurt so bad that I would fight it relentlessly. And it has always caused me more pain.

When Eckhart first said to do this – I thought why would i want to feel it. He explained that the reason why you should accept it is because it is part of becoming friendly with the present moment. (AS he discussed previously and I talked a little about in another post.)

Finally, he touched on how important it is to NOT seek external substances when in pain. This is not a rare phenomenon for me or many many people. This is evident through the widespread abuse of drugs and alcohol – which prolongs the problem.

Eckhart admits he likes a glass of wine – don’t we all – but overdoing it is the problem. Medicating the emotion dulls it temporarily but it is still there. For those like myself who have tried these methods and realized their failure to fix us – finally an answer.

Seemed strange for me to go into that pain – but I gotta say – it really works.

Lastly, Eckharts advice to help on stopping yourself from acting through the pain-body. When you are conscious and in the present – it is easier to see the pain-body creeping up – so you don’t have to be taken over by it. When you do feel it creeping up, stop and try and step back from it while it is still an emotion.

Eckhart said something like, “Suffering is not the pain-body but the identification with it when you become it or it becomes you.

As has been the case each week, I’m so happy to have the classes to reinforce the book. I feel like I’ve finally found the tools to really change how I am and enjoy my life like I’ve always wanted to.

Many thanks to Eckhart & Oprah!

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Why Was the 4th Eckhart & Oprah Class SO Helpful for Me?

Posted by apwood on March 25, 2008

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Because I’m dense when it comes to the non-physical. Examples and tools are what help me put the intangible into a perspective that can be used on a daily basis. And once again, Eckhart Tolle was full of great examples in the online class with Oprah for the Chapter Four of “A New Earth,” titled “Role-Playing: The Many Faces of the Ego.”

This is the first week that I did not try to log onto the Monday night class at www.Oprah.com, because I was tired. Last week I watched it on Monday night and found myself unable to go to sleep until after midnight. Tuesday morning at 6 am came too early (I’m one of those must have 8 hours of sleep kind). So thinking that watching it Tuesday at noon would allow me to absorb more won out. Well, I’m less tired today but I did miss that Christmas morning excitement I felt when logging on at night for the live event.

Either way, I’m so glad to have watched it. Each week brings more insight into how the ego impedes happiness and what to do about it. There were so many examples or faces of the ego covered but here is what was talked about that really affected me.

Eckhart said – Power is within. If you are not present you don’t know this. So you will try to get it from others.

This seemed to sum up to me why I was always wanting. Wanting stuff. Wanting more. Wanting something from someone. We are always searching for that power outside ourselves which can only be found inside and therefore we are never satisfied.

Eckhart told a story of what this Zen master said about an athlete. “That His Need to Win Drains his Power.”

Anybody who has played sports knows this is the case. When you aren’t thinking and you are completely focused on that moment, you do well. When you think too much, or psych yourself out, you don’t do well.

Eckhart went onto say that you should focus on the small steps each day and find joy in them, (you know where you ultimately want to end up) otherwise once you get it, it won’t be worth it because you didn’t enjoy getting there.

Many people called in with questions and Oprah did a great job of asking the laymen questions for us! Like how do you stay in that present state of consciousness (that many have and can achieve while meditating or sitting quietly) while your child is screaming or your boss is yelling at you?

Again he had wonderful examples – the one that struck me the most was when he said – practice being transparent. Instead of being a wall when these assaults hit you, allow them to flow through you.

I loved his statement that – True freedom is when your inner state is no longer dependent on external conditions. He told one caller that her daughter’s screaming was not the problem – it was her reaction. This hit home (as a mother). I never looked at it like the problem was mine -not my daughter’s. Another wow moment!

Continuing with being a mother. They talked about not being identified with the LABEL of MOTHER. That we should fulfill our functions; looking after, guiding, etc. But not becoming completely identified so that the function doesn’t become a role.

I got 2 things from this line of thought:

1-By losing our whole self in the role of Mother, it will take away from my being present in other situations and relationships – friend, wife, daughter, aunt etc.

2- Eckhart talked about identifying with the role, a mother will stay in that function with their children even when they are grown. This is why some Mothers still feel the need to tell their grown children what to do and treat them as though they were still small. Ultimately, this will impede my enjoying all of the stages of my daughter’s life.

Oprah went on to clarify that parenting changes as the child grows. I’m seeing this as my daughter approaches 12 yrs old. We now have issues that we didn’t when she was younger. Something I need to work on. Which Eckhart said something along the lines of it starts with me. All my relationships can change depending on my “BEING” and my reactions.

It was truly the most example filled and take-home-tools-for-every-day-life filled class yet!

The class ended with Oprah asking Eckhart how he could sum up this chapter and he said – Balancing the human & the being. Functioning while rooted in being. Having constant peace in the background.

Aaahhh, I look forward to that – but I will try to find joy in the steps getting there!

I look forward to next week!

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Why was the 3rd Week with Eckhart & Oprah-Just As Exciting to Me As The First?

Posted by apwood on March 18, 2008

mpj042259800001.jpg8:30 pm EST, it was time to take my seat at the 3rd weekly class by Oprah & Eckhart Tolle. Exhausted from a long day, I debated. Logging on, just in case so I was guaranteed a seat… The rush came over me while watching the clock count backwards. It was the same one I felt the first week… anticipation, wonder, and so much more. I can only describe it as a kid on Christmas morning at the moment before opening the presents, the awe, hoping for that special something.

Sounds corny, but that is how it feels to me.. even this 3rd week. I wanted to go to sleep and watch it tomorrow but the exhaustion lifted and now I’m more awake than I was an hour and a half ago. Since we are all energy, does all that collective positive energy make everyone coming to the class feel this?

I chose not to ‘take notes’ as i did the first week. Last week as well as this week it seemed to be a distraction. Just wanting to absorb what was being said was more important. There really is no way to completely ‘get it by reading a summarized account. I’ve finished the book and it had a profound impact on me. I’ve been rereading it because there is just so much that I’m amazed by and just want to keep absorbing. But I’m truly grateful for the class because it is really reinforcing the concepts.

Eckhart is truly talented at giving examples of issues and resolutions in an easy to understand way. I think a big problem with people ‘getting’ philosophical or spiritual content is the inability of the messenger to present it in a way that can be grasped by those who are not already enlightened. Even those of us who had glimpses of it but couldn’t wrap their head around it without those examples had problems expanding our understanding.

The concept of becoming aware of the ego seems so simplistic, it is so noticeable when Eckhart points out the attributes i.e. – anger, aggression, judgment, hostility, complaining, etc. Noticing it in glimpses is so different from living without being run by the ego. But Eckhart made me feel better when he explained the process. First you will notice afterwards -i.e. after yelling, you’ll come back a few minutes later and realize it. Then the awakening may happen in the middle of it. Then before you act on it. The ultimate goal being able to separate from the ego completely by not having the urge to act on it since you don’t relate to those actions anymore. Although still in the beginning stages some of the time, I am so much more aware and able to separate (even if it is afterwards or halfway through).

At the end I again felt relief when Eckhart said something like the ego isn’t the enemy, it is not threatening. I had been thinking that my ego was an enemy not a sad or confused child. It is much easier to be gentle to the later, which will ultimately bring about the change more quickly. Also that the ego had a purpose to make us realize that there is a consciousness. So the suffering has a purpose, it makes me look at it like ‘thanks for all that‘ instead of ‘why did I have to feel such pain?’

Eckhart gave a great example of a plumber that had come to his home. The man was hostile and gruff. Eckhart did not get offended or take it personally as he could see that this man was conditioned to be this way. Maybe he was always treated with anger since being a child. Not reacting to the man’s rudeness, Eckhart treated him kindly and patiently and almost better than one would a non-rude person. Eckhart explained that after about 20 min. the man was talking to him with a kind and gentle voice just as Eckhart was speaking to him with.

What a great example. It made me realize that most of my life has been spent reacting to the way people spoke to me or how a situation felt unfair to me and I was not happy with it. Covering sadness with anger, so not to appear weak (I equated sadness and tears with weakness) I looked at life through a negative aspect. Complaining, dissatisfaction, feeling things just weren’t fair was the norm. Still is sometimes but more quickly than I imagined, I’m beginning to see that as Eckhart explains that accepting and ‘making friends’ with the present moment is the best thing you can do. He says (without looking up his exact words I believe Oprah said this is on pg 78) that ‘what you resist persists.’

So being present and non-reactive to a situation will lesson the negative reaction resulting in a more positive outcome. Genius. It seems so simple when you hear it – and it probably is – when you make it your habit instead of what most of us have as our habits.

So just some of my ramblings…

My question since last week about labeling- Is the ‘not labeling’ stuff that Eckhart talks about (because it causes us to become disinterested) the reason that so many marriages fail? Is the word “marriage” the problem since it labels the two people and causes them to no longer be interested in the other.

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